If you could not blame anyone for your life what would that feel like? Exhilaration or fear?
Katie and Gay Hendricks
It has taken years to see the truth of this realized, imperfectly, in my life. I wanted the relationship described by Gay and Kathleen Hendricks in Conscious Loving; I saw the many truths they had written into this book yet I struggled with this idea. Simply put that I had to be painfully authentic, stand and make my own choice was terrifying. I had for most of my life let circumstances choose for me. It was, at that time, easier in my mind to have something, someone, to blame and then complain about than to own that I was choosing the known and familiar path of blame.
Marianne Williamson 1989 "A Return To Love."
I saw men walking out this strength and was mentored in standing in my strength and taking responsibility for my choices.
Our choices lead us to where we are. We see the truth of this as we go for a physical stroll and turn left or right. We do not say the wind blew me here or that family and friends or even strangers turned us left or right. This is self evident in walks and relationships and yet we do not want to acknowledge this truth and give up the warm comfort of blame when it comes to the seemingly murky ebb and flow of relationships.
I am here to tell you that when you know your truth that you are already amazing and bright this light will bring clarity. When you are authentic you will see the truth of your power to choose. You will become free to make the choices towards the life you long for.
If you have read this you, in all probability, already have made the choice.
Welcome to the life of authentic relationships; it is well worth the journey.
- I am committed to my own complete development as an individual.
- In my relationships, I am committed to revealing myself, not to concealing myself.
- I am committed to the full empowerment of people around me.
- I am committed to acting out of the awareness that I am 100 percent the source of my reality.
- I am committed to having a good time in my close relationships.
Hendricks, Gay and Kathlyn. Conscious Loving. Toronto: Bantam, February 1992. Paperback, page 226